Judgmental Hai Kya?

Title makes us feel like recent bollywood movie review but this is something based on the existing reality. A person around love doing one thing and that is “Judging Others”. When we are merely sitting free we start analysing people based on our thought process and we Judge. We frame very weird opinions and we confidently sputter out to the world. Even we are not sure whether it is true or false. Because it is based on just how that person has behaved with us.

Who has given us right of framing that dreadful judgement? While being judgemental we feel we are doing something great on the basis of our thinking pattern but yes, it reveals our own personality too. It might be good or cheap depends on the judgement we did. From the opinions framed we are the giving birth to injurious virus and that is “GOSSIP”. It spreads like rumour. And the spoken sentence by us leads to the catalyst in being judgemental. Please stop this you never know, some day you might find yourself in the same situation.

Few instance framing opinions, I want to quote few of them below;

·       “She is Fat and not doing any exercise. Very irresponsible”. (That “She” is a thyroid patient and in pain.)

·       “Oh! At the age of 33 years he is not married and not earning anything”. (That “He” is in depression as his father died before 5 years and mother is a cancer patient.)

·       “Look she is so happy; she is having lots of money. She does not have any problem. We are unlucky. She buys 50 pair of clothes every week”. (That “She” is adopted child and being harassed by her step parents, so she goes to orphanage and distributes those clothes to kids there.)

·       “She is such a useless person and has less mental capacity to understand the things. She always laughs and smiles at little things”. (That “She” is beaten each day due to poor family culture and rigid mentality so she has decided to make everyone happy by her smile.)

·       “They are so stupid and non sense people to be into a relation. How they can fell in love with each other? Idiots.” (They might have loved the soul of each other and promised to take care of both the families. In this cruel world they might have actually found someone so true and loyal by heart.)

·       “Their daughter is having physical problem, she is almost 31 years old. She won’t get good groom. One must get settled at the age of 23 years.” (Hello, ”that daughter” has physical problem by birth, not her fault. See the inner beauty; she has made someone’s life more beautiful. We are always ready for back biting. If she would be your daughter than?)

·       “She might have done some non sense work that’s why she is beaten and threatened. Even she is forced to marriage.” (“She” is the most innocent girl, loving and respecting parents but due to rigid mentality and power she is the prey. She cares so she is not taking any legal actions.)

·       “He is divorced for 2 times, he might be stubborn or harassing his wives.” (That “He” is kind so bullied by the girl’s side and she wants money as she married because of money only. He needs your care and support)

·       “She is so busy that she never answers call.” (“She” might be sometimes solving somebody’s missed puzzle and she is not free for gossip. Message her. Call is not the only solution)

·       “She never pays money, each time I pay. She must have that courtesy.” (That “She” is craving for one time meal. Because she has no money for bread and butter.)

·       “She speaks less and she is a kind of introvert.” (That “She” has faced insult of speaking truth in public and she is going through bad phase. She hates back biting and bitching. She loves the development of people silently done by her.)

We are not fitting always into somebody’s shoes so let’s stop judging people and try to know the actual reason behind any action before we take final decision, because you don’t know the other side. Even I have seen people judge on the basis of others opinion. But we must use our brain and heart, as nobody is perfect.

I will love to quote here that “those who spend their time looking for the faults in others, usually spend no time to correct their own.” Do not judge people by the scriptures of their faith or the scars from their past, embrace them by the content of their heart.

So I would like to conclude that please, “have little more kindness and a little less judgement to make ours and others life more peaceful and beautiful.”