Chupana Bhi Nahi Aata Jataana Bhi Nahi Aata!!!

We are having complaint always that people are fake and are lying each time. They are such that they always have wrong intentions and they ditch us. Yes, this is true in 90% cases. The people who are very much close and they trust each other completely, than too they have fear of telling whatever they feel. The question is why?

I feel the problem lies in missing element of “REAL TRUST”. Means the fear arises of that person we love the most or we trust the most will leave us after hearing the truth. May be one has done some mistakes unknowingly or just tried to help other with right intention but it failed than he or she might not confess as has terror of being judged and fear of “Non Acceptance”. Now in this case problem lies with not the person who lies or hides but the person who does not understand. Did you know that 60 percent of people can’t go 10 minutes without lying?

Yes, we always lack to accept the truth and we grumble that we are being ditched. Psychology says one needs pure care and the one who listens. If we are a good listener we always will have the person who will always be by our side no matter what. That person will have no fear of being judged or criticised. Everybody has their own story and we just need someone to understand. This will make the person calm, cool and polite. It can help one to leave addiction too. Few reasons people lie or hide something are-

·  To avoid punishment

·  Fear of getting criticised

·  Fear of being judged on their action (Might be done innocently)

·  To gain sympathy

·  To avoid social awkwardness

·  To make the things work

These all goes with the emotions as this person (who lied) might be in some serious problem or depression. If we can be the one who without passing any conclusion can understand person, than we will have best companion ever or I can say best relation ever. Nobody on this earth is so perfect that he or she might have not done any mistake or have lied , let us have that much patience that one can have courage to tell us the truth and can have solution to the problem. We can save lives too, just have ears to hear and believe.

Practically we can have habit of “NOT LYING” if we:

· Confess to someone that we have a problem

This is always the first, major, and most difficult step. Find an important person you trust and tell them about your lying habit. You need help to stay responsible. Megan said: “When I met the man who is now my husband, I knew I needed to work on [my lying] because I wanted/needed to be completely truthful with him. I told him that I wanted his help, and was amazed that he loved me enough to stick with me (even the few times I lied to him) and fight it out with me.”

· Try to outline out what pressured you to lie

What were you trying to hide? Almost every lie has a reason behind it. Tell that someone that you lied. No matter whatever consequences are but you will surely be relieved.

· Tell someone while you lie

Admitting a lie can make a lot of difference, and while it might hurt your pride, it’s far better than being a liar. Even better, confess to the person you lied to immediately and seek their forgiveness. This is overwhelming, but it will cause you to stop and think before you tell another lie. Someone once said Confession is good for the soul. 

It would also be wise to confess lying in front of God. And when you confess, you can also ask God to help you smash the habit. The Bible promises God will always show us a way out:“No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” 

·Be realistic about what you promise

Deliberately busted promises are lies that lead to broken hearts. Be truthful about what you’re capable of doing, admitting to yourself and others your limitations, and you won’t feel a need to lie.

· Carry out telling the truth

When you start to feel the push for a lie, stop and think for a moment. Think about what the other person would feel about you if they knew you were lying. Think about their love towards you, how you would feel if people lied to you all the time. And then, as aching as it may seem, tell the truth. The more we tell others the truth, the easier it is to continue to do it. Angel said: “It spreads like wildfire when someone is caught lying. Then when the person is actually telling the truth, no one will believe them because they have told so many lies. For the sake of your family, friends, and loved ones, always tell the truth even if you are afraid of the outcome!”

· Commit to a life of honesty, at all costs

Telling the truth might be horribly uncomfortable for you, but you’re starting to walk down a path of honesty and integrity, turning yourself into the person you desire to be. 

However, as you wake up to the reality of what you’re saying and doing and put a full stop to the lies you are speaking, you will soon collect the benefits of living a peaceful life. I promise, if you put forth an effort to stop this toxic and destructive habit right now, you’ll be thankful forever.

I have some fantasies to have entire world at peace and the most beautiful relations without any lie. Yes, there might be many problems but that relation would survive in any hard times without any grudges of past and there will be only true love accompanied by REAL TRUST. I will try to be this person. Now choice is yours.